So many times we get caught up in this assignment, that test to next week, these clinicals to get to, the study session with the girls tomorrow night. . . add in the possibility of jobs, housekeeping, and kids, and in the hustle and bustle of it all, we often forget or neglect our significant others. Or if we don’t, we seem to value quality time with our bed more than our honeys.
However, our spouses/boyfriends/girlfriends can often be our greatest source of support and encouragement. We can’t let them down! What are some strategies to enjoy each other even with our busy nursing student schedules?
1. Scheduled date-nights
Make a habit of making dates with your lover, and not to blow them off either. Scheduling a few hours once a week or every other week, or even once a month, to focus only on each other will help you to reconnect. You can make your date night out or in–the important thing is to put the other stuff aside and focus on being together.
2. Mutual study/work sessions
My boyfriend and I have used this one many times. If you’re both in college, or if your sweetie has some work-related business to attend to from home, work together! It doesn’t matter if he/she is in nursing too. I highly recommend going out to a coffee shop together to work. Have your S.O. quiz you on some NCLEX questions, and in return offer to proofread their essay. Take turns explaining concepts from your classes to each other. They can be a great asset to and champion of your learning!
3. Doing and appreciating the small things
The biggest problem I’ve seen in nursing school relationships is that the nursing student side of the relationship stops giving, while expecting to be given more. Who hasn’t heard after a long clinical day, “I can’t wait to get home and crash on the couch, and make the hubby take care of the house and kids!” While it’s totally okay for your better half to pick up some of your to-dos when your plate is full from nursing, remember the importance of you doing little things too–taking his car through the car wash, making dinner for her one night. . . And by all means, don’t forget to show appreciation for all the extra help you’re getting from your S.O.!
To sum things up, it’s important to remember our partners, even during the demanding course of nursing school. They’re often our biggest supporters, and we owe it to them not to neglect our relationships. If you make an effort to spend time with your lover, and remember to continue contributing to the relationship and appreciating your honey, you’re well on your way to maintaining a happy relationship even among all the stressors nursing school throws at you.